Posts Tagged ‘holidays’

I’m so not a fan of “holidays” that are trumped up opportunities for commercialism. For me, Halloween is one of them, though not as bad as some.

We don’t do much in our family for Halloween, though Q usually has some sort of costume — last year, an entirely purple fairy. This year, a vampire. Mighty flexible in his presentations, that kid!

What irks me the most is how maddeningly stereotypical we (society) are about costumes and costume choices for kids. We expect boys to be pirate and girls to be princesses. Or perhaps boys to be lions and girls to be cute puppies. Or pandas. But the moment a girl dons a ghoulish costume or a boy puts on a fairy costume (or a tutu, for that matter), it’s shocking. Furthermore, that girl is accepted, and is perhaps “daring” to take on such a scary identity. The boy — the on in the fairy costume — he gets little more than sideways glances, perhaps a few whispered comments passed behind his back. Because society isn’t okay with that type of crossing the lines. Not for boys. And Halloween just turns a huge magnifying glass on those dynamics. Hence contributing to my distaste for the holiday. Call me uncool, lacking in the ability to have a good time…fine. All I’m saying is read between the lines a bit, and Halloween provides us a perfect chance to do just that.



This photo fails to capture the accompanying patent leather shoes.... 🙂

Read Full Post »

In no particular order:

  1. Boys, if left to their own devices, will inevitably make weapons and “play” with them.
  2. Hannah Montana is ONLY for girls.
  3. Performing shows is a girl-only pursuit.
  4. Boys can only play with old dolls, not new dolls.
  5. Boys are VERY likely to break toys, even if they are age-appropriate.
  6. Black is for boys.
  7. “Kids mostly get meaner as they get older.” A direct Q quote, and it bore out, unfortunately.
  8. Boys in velvet pants get NO compliments.
  9. Boys are not beautiful, only handsome.
  10. Leaving our dear little bubble is hard. Very hard.

(As you hopefully guessed, these are not such beloved or welcome lessons. But most rolled off the back, or perhaps even evaded immediate response. I’m sure the ramifications will surface soon.)

What did you and your loved ones learn this holiday season?

Read Full Post »