I’m so very curious about gender dynamics among kids. Really and truly curious. Not curious in the annoyed sort of way. Honestly.
So here’s what I’m curious about: Why is it that, especially as they get older, girls tend to gravitate towards girls (for play, hanging out, partners in school things, etc) and boys to boys? How much of this is nature and how much of it is nurture? If we didn’t have such strictly gendered norms that we inculcate our children into, would the gravitational pull be this strong?
And what about the social stigma? Because there’s a point at which it’s often uncool for a boy to play with a girl/be friends with a girl. What is that about? Especially when boys are EXPECTED to ultimately marry girls/women. Now there’s a double standard for you.
There are just so very many things at play here, and I can’t always untangle them in my mind. Of course I want to push back against these dynamics, but where’s the best place to push? Is it just noticing them and pointing them out because most of us traipse around life unaware? Or is it something else?
Please, please share your thoughts with me on this one.
(hey, it wouldn’t be a post without a picture, right?)