Straightlaced

I was lucky enough to see this amazing film last week and to hear from the filmmaker, Debra Chasnoff. The subtitle for the film, “How gender’s got us all tied up,” speaks volumes. As do the voices of the youth in the film. It’s heartbreaking to hear from boys who acknowledge that how they often [...]

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Losing and moving forward

Today brought with it the news of the defeat of marriage equality in Maine. I’m saddened, angered, frustrated by this loss. But I won’t explore the details of those sentiments here. What’s most pertinent about this moment in history, as well as the anniversary of last year’s similar moment with Prop 8, is the message [...]

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Beauty and Appreciation

Recently, we attended a family wedding. When we first told Q about the wedding, he proclaimed his desire to wear his butterfly skirt and “get all fancy.” He was excited. But it wasn’t really the kind of place where that would work. I know, I know, we could have used it as a growing/learning/pushing boundaries [...]

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A “sister post,” if you will

Angela, over at queerbabymaking, is creating a fabulous project about what it means to be a “girl.” Really from all perspectives. I think it’s definitely a “sister post” in that it’s all about expanding our notions of gender and gender expression. Check it out, submit your photos. Help this expansion of thought. (And just for [...]

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Insinuations

I’ve written before about the relative safety of our lives here. Q rarely gets comments about how he dresses, who he plays with, what he likes to play. We don’t get comments about being a queer family. There are others like us around. All in all, we are extremely lucky to have been able to [...]

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Soaked, we made our voices heard

Yesterday my family, our friends, and about 5000 others in Boston braved the drenching rains to stand and speak in protest against the passage of Proposition 8 in California. As I explained the issue to Q, as well as the rally, he instantly took up the cause. “I insist that they stop that law in [...]

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So….

I’ve been away from this blog for a bit. While I’ve cooked up a few different posts in my head, for some reason they haven’t come out of my fingers and onto the page. I do promise that they will. In part, though, I think that I’ve stayed away because I’ve noticed some things that [...]

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World Changers

Recently in the land of the internet, both on blogs and a message board or two, I’ve read (and sometimes been a part of) conversations about boys who cross the boundaries of social norms. Often, parents are hesitant about what to do. Do I let my son wear purple to school? Will he be ostracized [...]

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Sometimes it’s best to let others speak…

I could not have captured these sentiments better myself. http://www.abc.net.au/unleashed/stories/s2193119.htm Eloquent. Insightful.

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Protecting them, protecting myself

Howdy folks…it’s been a while. Luckily, we were enjoying a bit of family r and r. Much needed. Much enjoyed. Now, very much back into the swing of things. On our travels, which took us, with great luck, to the Caribbean, I found myself watching in a new way to see what folks, both local [...]

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