Thanks! And looking ahead

Thanks for all the congratulatory wishes on W’s arrival. More on that in days and weeks to come, I’m sure. A few of you asked if Q is excited for the start of school, and the answer is a resounding YES! He is a school lover. In spite of the extra social pressures he feels [...]

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School’s Out. Which means….

nail polish is on. Ponytail is in. Intriguing, eh? Thoughts, anyone?

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Blogging for LGBT Families: A long-overdue announcement

Today is “Blogging for LGBT Families Day.” Wonderfully and graciously hosted by Dana, over at mombian. In considering what I’d blog about, on this day to make our families more known, to bring the intricacies, complexities, and beauty of the queer community of families out into the light, I figured, of course, that I’d write [...]

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A study in contradictions

At Q’s school, there’s a question on the white board each morning, and kids read it and write a response below. Everyone can then see their response and they usually discuss the variety of experiences, opinions, etc. in those responses. Today’s question: Do you break boy-girl stereotypes? (spurred on by kids from an older class [...]

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Filtering: For Real or for Comfort?

Q has been doing a good deal of filtering lately. Like when asked what his favorite color is, he’ll pause. Then take in his audience. Then announce the answer. Usually it’s green and blue now. It is still occasionally pink and purple. Honestly, I don’t know what his favorite color is in reality, but I [...]

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Coming out again and again and again

I came out during college. Since then, I’ve made decisions on an almost daily basis about coming out in various situations. At this point, and in the community I live in, I rarely give it a second thought, but I do give it thought, even if that’s just a split second. What will that parent [...]

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Straightlaced

I was lucky enough to see this amazing film last week and to hear from the filmmaker, Debra Chasnoff. The subtitle for the film, “How gender’s got us all tied up,” speaks volumes. As do the voices of the youth in the film. It’s heartbreaking to hear from boys who acknowledge that how they often [...]

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It’s so easy to get away with

It’s so easy to get away with making closed-minded statements about folks who don’t conform to gender norms. Or to sexuality norms. It remains so very easy. I don’t think that it’s the LAST acceptable stereotype or prejudice, but it remains an acceptable one. This weekend I was part of a discussion on a different [...]

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Troubling our comfortable norms

With a bit of publicity of late, this blog has had a sharp rise in visitors. I like that! It’s also brought with it some folks who rightfully question why I write this blog. In particular, there are questions about whether I’m somehow pigeon-holing Q and/or whether my appreciating things like his love for purple [...]

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Summarizing the mission

Recently, I was introduced to the AcceptingDad blog, which chronicles the life of a dad with a kiddo much like mine. A child born a boy, but who eschews many of the labels that so often come along with being a boy. He’s got an amazing post that, to me, summarizes the “mission” of my [...]

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