A “sister post,” if you will

Angela, over at queerbabymaking, is creating a fabulous project about what it means to be a “girl.” Really from all perspectives.
I think it’s definitely a “sister post” in that it’s all about expanding our notions of gender and gender expression.
Check it out, submit your photos. Help this expansion of thought.
(And just for the record, when [...]

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We now pause for…a small pat on the back

For this blog was #86 on WordPress growing blogs this week. Yowzers!
Keep growing, baby blog, keep growing.
(it’s good to celebrate the small things, I say)

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Being an opening for others

Something I love about mothering Q and being openly supportive of who he is, how he differs from social norms, etc, is that I get to be an opening for others to share their similar experiences with me.
Friends who write about their sons playing with gender, wearing dresses, wanting to be girls, etc, to others [...]

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Insinuations

I’ve written before about the relative safety of our lives here. Q rarely gets comments about how he dresses, who he plays with, what he likes to play. We don’t get comments about being a queer family. There are others like us around. All in all, we are extremely lucky to have been able to [...]

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Tiny glimmers of hope….

That our community may prevail.
That our voices from the weekend, from days prior, years prior, decades past, were heard.
That the world actually WILL continue to be safer for Q and other children.
That the boxes so many folks try to shove our children into, our relationships into, and our world into, may, in fact, be crumbling.
Please….
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/11/17/BAGP1467MF.DTL&type=politics&tsp=1

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Soaked, we made our voices heard

Yesterday my family, our friends, and about 5000 others in Boston braved the drenching rains to stand and speak in protest against the passage of Proposition 8 in California.
As I explained the issue to Q, as well as the rally, he instantly took up the cause. “I insist that they stop that law in 2 [...]

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Seeing the differences

One of the amazing bonuses to being Q’s mom is how he has helped me to see even more of the engrained, gendered roles out there in the world. Not that I can say I bought into gendered roles at all prior to him coming along, but having him has shone a light on all [...]

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Tempered Joy

Today I’ve been thinking a lot about labels. Folks around the newsmedia have been speculating whether the election of Obama (wahoo!) means that we are now in a “post-racial America.” I definitely do not think that even the election of an African-American man for president can rectify the racial inequities in our country. From differences [...]

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Shameless plug

I posted over at my other, oft-ignored blog today. It’s about community, which relates to this here blog. And politics. Which does, in a one-step-removed kind of way. And voting. That link you’ll have to make on your own.
Come on over for today.

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But I thought I had a few years before “teenagerhood” kicked in

“Mom, I HATE all of my sweatshirts with this outfit.”
“None of my shoes match this outfit.”**
Outfit?!?!? Who knew that I (and my lovely wife) could raise a boy so concerned about outfits. And matching. And having just the right thing to go together.
In case you were wondering, shoes like this
do NOT match green pants. Or [...]

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